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The Rules Experiment

Friday, March 10

Rule #1: Be a "Creature Unlike Any Other."

I will admit that Rule #1, in essence is a very good one. Aside from acting "demurely," the basic premise is great.

"Being a creature unlike any other is really an attitude, a sense of confidence and radiance that permeates your being from head to toe. It's the way you smile (you light up the room), pause between sentences (you don't babble on and on out of nervousness), listen (attentively), look (demurely, never stare), breathe (slowly), stand (straight), and walk (briskly, with your shoulders back)."
"It doesn't matter if you're not a beauty queen, that you never finished college, or that you don't keep up with current events. You still think you're enough! You have more confidence than women with MBAs or money in the bank. You don't grovel. You're not desperate or anxious. You don't date men who don't want you. You trust in the abundance and goodness of the universe: if not him, someone better, you say. You don't settle. You don't chase anyone. You don't use sex to make men love you. You believe in love and marriage. You're not cynical. You don't go to pieces when a relationship doesn't work out. Instead, you get a manicure and go out on another date or to a singles dance. You're an optimist. You brush away a tear so that it doesn't smudge your makeup and you move on! Of course, that is not how you really feel. This is how you pretend you feel until it feels real. You act as if!"

Ok, this one is pretty ok in my book. I agree that desperation is not attractive and moving and not settling for someone who doesn't feel the same is the best thing to do- even if you have to fake it. By the way, what the hell are "singles dances." Hard to believe that this was written in 1995.

"Most women hang around men all night waiting to be asked to dance. But you do The Rules. If he wants to be with you or get your phone number, he'll search the crowded room until he finds you. You don't offer him your pen or business card. You don't make it easy for him. Don't even carry them with you or you may be tempted to "help him out." The reason is that he has to do all the work. As he scrambles around begging the coat-check girl for a pen, you stand quietly. You think to yourself, 'The Rules have begun!'"

More like "the games have begun." Ok, this seems really unneccessary. I really don't want to make a guy run all around a "singles dance" (haha), looking for a damn pen. I always carry one, and besides, I don't know a single person who doesn't have a cell phone. Also, I don't see a problem with asking a guy to dance, as long as it doesn't seem desperate and I don't go up to him multiple times to ask.

3 Comments:

Blogger Bad at Life said...

That stuff about pens and business cards is a little weird. Like you say, I always just go straight to the cell...and I can't for the life of me remember ever asking a woman for her card.

Also, good luck with the date. Remember, neon colors are hot!

3/10/2006 12:35 PM  
Blogger jenjen said...

I think rule #1 about being demure and confident is for the most part true in theory. I'm sure I did the opposite of most of these things. Rule had to be written by a married person who now can see this is the foundation of security. The same reason why it is so easy to meet men anywhere now that I'm married. It is more than difficult to hold true to these ideals when all you want is a boyfriend.

good luck on date night. black is fine.

JJ

3/10/2006 5:23 PM  
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